Long Distance Relationships?

[Gilly]

Anyone dealt with this before? I've spoken to a lot of people and they always say it's a bad idea and that they'd never do it again. Personally i've never tried a long distance relationship and havn't really had any intentions to until recently. It's a shame she's firmly against it. :(

[Misfit]

they are pointless

[CrazySicilian]

I'm in one, but we're only an hour apart and see each other every weekend. So yeah, in some instances they can work.

[Misfit]

i wouldnt consider a hours drive long d

[Driden]

What's the point? I mean how far? How many times will you see each other? Are you talking serious relationship or occasional booty call? It never works, both of you will start cheating and eventually one of you will 'break up'. I had a girlfriend who was serious but moved for college. we would see eachother every now and then, talk on the phone, e-mail, letters etc and STILL we both cheated on eachother and broke up. It just doesn't work unless both of you are pathetic

[toxicangel19]

i had a long distance relationship kinda when i went to bootcamp and school i was away from my boyfriend now husband for six months. then when we got married for the first year we only got to see eachother three months out of the year. he finally came back to be with me from his stint in bootcamp and school feburary 2007. we managed just fine..sure there were arguments but nothing that could really hurt us.

[CrazySicilian]

i wouldnt consider a hours drive long d

If its not in walking distance, then its not really close, lol.

[Elwood]

I was in one for a year and a half. Summer 2006 i started talking to a girl who lived in Sweden when i lived in Canada. Thats pretty damn far if you ask me. Anyway we started talking as friends but in no time we started to have other feeling for each other.

Decemeber 2006 i actually flew my ass over there and met her for the first time. The i did it again for two weeks in May... this time she came back with me for a another month visit in canada.

After that i start plans to move to Sweden... and guess what that is where i am typing this message from right now. We are painting up an apartment today and by monday we will have our own place.

Is it scary... oh hell yea i dont even speak Swedish. Though she speaks good english and lots of people here do to. However i will learn by going to school soon. I also will find a decnt job soon as well. Then its all about traveling and having some fun. I did it just for that reason; I loved it but i also knew there was something out here beyond love for me. I could not only be in love i could have a fun life around me as well.

In short yes they can work, like anything in this world. However you need to step back and look at your intentions. When it comes to long distance relationships working you need to step back and ask yourself if this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.

I did and look where i am now. It can be a big adventure in life if you are willing to take it. Hell not like i cant go back home if things dont work out... but what kind of person would i be if i didnt give this love a chance.

Its better to love and lost than to never loved at all.

[SonOfSavini]

I tried a long distance relationship when I left for the military. No amount of phone calls, letters, e-mails, or webcam time can make up for having someone there with you. Long distance relationships fail 99% of the time...whether it's because someone cheats or because it's too damn hard.

[thrEE6MAfia]

Dr.36 says No to long distance relationships..
bad idea Gilly

[dead breed]

As Elwood stated "Its better to love and lost than to never loved at all."

If she feels the same way and you do....go for it. You only live once my friend. Good luck with it. :coolbeer: Keep us posted.

[Knight]

she's firmly against it. :(

I think you answered your own question.

[Duff McCartney]

They never work out. Distance is just too much to overcome when you want that person right there with you.

[Cannibal]

Been there, done that. Didn't work out. Not something I'd try again.

[Gilly]

I think you answered your own question.

Wasn't asking if I should go for it. :D Silly Knight. :haht:

[dead breed]

Wasn't asking if I should go for it. :D Silly Knight. :haht:

:D

[Elwood]

They never work out. Distance is just too much to overcome when you want that person right there with you.

they work if you want them to work... case and point is where i am sitting right now. Dont say never

[Dr. Awesome]

I'm in one right now. There's a 8 hour difference she's in college i'm in college we both have been doing this for the past 3 years and everything is working out well. We've both stayed committed and enjoy the time we share on the phone which is ALOT and we both understand that there are times when we aren't able to speak to each other that much and we accept it but we always find ways to make time for a little conversation even if it's for an hour. It has worked great for me I couldn't be happier. So it can work it's hard as hell but both parties have to be committed and understanding of each others needs and it will work out as long as each other still wishes to be with one another.

Good luck to you brother.

[Wrathborne]

Its better to love and lost than to never loved at all.

Dont knock it until you try it, sometimes going solo in life and turning off that side of yourself is for the best in regards for your future.

Besides as harshe as this is to say, all you have in life is you. Friends, family and lovers move away, or hate us, or end up dying around us in life, eventually you will be all alone and theres nothing you can do about it. When it comes down to this, its just a temporary happyness that might span a good 40 years until something like this happens. Then what? it's gone and there's nothing you can do about it.

You're alone with your memories of what was and thats that.

It's not pathetic, or stupid, but it's just not for me. And it's something I detest that this is just how the world works, but it is and thats how it is. This is a type of happyness that is truly delicate and so fragile I dont have any intentions of even trying anymore.

Interestingly enough back in the mid 70's my folks only dated briefly before my father proposed and joined up in the army and they had a good long distance relationship via writing eachother for a year or so before my mother ended up moving to Germany with my father for a short time, that was almost 30 years ago and they're still together.

BTW Elwood do NOT move to Sweden until you have a college degree from Canada, the European educational system is just vicious. If you fail the college entry exam in Europe, a job is chosen for you to work for the rest of your life. It's a once shot deal. Any degree no matter how basic from the US or canada will help you out much more in life.

Heard this from a former teacher who was in fact from Holland(no accent whatsoever for a guy only in the US less than 10 years) and shared with us the difference in educational systems and why America's is so highly regarded. Europe and Asia are just 'one shot' systems into college, if you fail, you have no real future in life but as a mechanic, or fisherman, or even a 7-11 clerk.

Here if you fail, you get second chances, if you fail there, you're fucked.

[koolmike]

Long distance relationships = 2 people on the phone too much